Dragonflies in Action

When you look into a mirror, what do you see?  This week my mirror wasn’t one on the wall but a person.  I saw in them an attitude and beliefs in myself that I needed to change within me.  I got quite cross with this person and their stuck behaviour.  Then I stopped and took a look at the real problem.  The stuck behaviour wasn’t really in them, it was the thoughts and beliefs had about myself that I needed to change so that I could move forward with my own life.  I was also intrigued that I was looking at a male and seeing this behaviour I didn’t like.  When I looked at myself I saw the thoughts were in my head/mental attitude which relates to the masculine side of me.  From this what I realised was that my inner male was fearful of moving forward and causing blocks to occur.  Actually I was quite grateful for the realisation as part of my fears turned out to be about not having systems in place for when I got really busy and what would happen to me if I had to stand up in front of a crowd and not being good enough and being scared as I have just talked about the shift in using the bagua.  This is on my Dragonflies in Action facebook page.  Enjoy looking within.

Last month saw me working with old attitudes, thoughts and beliefs.   I ended up looking at thoughts and beliefs that I had adopted as a child from both my family and society.  I was reminded of this in a dream where I saw myself playing in a creek.  I had removed all the large stones that would cause me to stub my toes (bigger issues equal big rocks) and was left with the uneven but semi-smooth surface of a well trodden path.  Each of those remaining stones needed to be picked up and looked at to assess their validity in my life now as a mature adult.  The myths from bygone eras in the form of attitudes, beliefs and thoughts needed to be looked at closely to assess whether they be kept or released.  For instance, what does it mean to be a woman in this century and how do I choose to live my life that allows me to feel empowered, fulfilled, happy and joyful.  Releasing unwanted baggage allows me to now move forward freely.

Have you taken the time to sit down and look at some of these old fashioned ideas you are holding onto?  Do they still fit with how you wish to live your live as a mature adult now?  Is it time to look at them?  If so, you may want some direction.  My FREE 5-day email course will give you some guidance.  So tap on the following link 5 Day FREE email course and enjoy the journey.

Suzanne

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Following on from a comment I heard while at the gym made me contemplate how we live our lives? The comment was with regards to hiring a personal trainer – I let them do all the thinking. I have nothing against hiring a personal trainer and feel that they do a wonderful job. However, at what stage do we take control of our lives rather let someone else control our lives?

This made me think of a conversation I had had years ago when waitressing and a customer made the comment, that an automatic car is generally driven by someone who doesn’t want to take control of the their life and the direction it takes. On the other had a person who drives a manual needs to constantly think about where they are and what they are doing in the vehicle so they are likely to be constantly thinking about their life and considering where they want it to go, at what pace and are likely to change direction quicker when it is going in a less desirable direction.

How many of us stop to ponder this concept?  How many adults are teaching their children to blame someone else for the situation they find themselves in instead of looking to their thoughts, attitudes and actions to see how they have attracted the situation to themselves to learn from.  Perhaps life is taking a different direction if we all end up on bikes.

I was watching the window cleaner washing windows and it reminded me that windows in a house are like the eyes which are windows to the soul.  When the windows are clean, it makes it easier to see the direction you want to travel at this point in time.  When they are dirty, we sometimes end up being a little stuck and unable to see which direction to move forward in.  So if you are unsure about something, perhaps washing the windows will help.  Part of the reason I have found this task to help, is that my chatterbox gets going and all the negative thoughts come up.  At least once they have popped into my head I am able to work with them as they are often fears that I have which are keeping me form moving forward.  Once I have worked out what the fear is, I can work out where it has come from so that I can then release it so that the attachment to the emotion is no longer able to affect me.  I know that I will be shown the fear again as our patterns move in a circular motion.  The exciting thing is though that eventually I will be able to look at the situation that caused the fear initially and there will be no emotional reaction.  That’s the exciting part to get to.

Mirrors on the other hand reflect back to us whatever they see.  That is, if there is a mess in front of the mirror then this will be reflected back to us in other areas of our lives on a greater scale than the little mess in front of the mirror.  On the other hand, if a mirror is placed in  front of a alter that has things we love on it then that is what is reflected back to us.  You will find that you are attracted just to things you love and will only want to hold onto those things, experiences and attitudes in your life that you love.

I have recently watched a facebook live session from an acquaintance and it bothered me.  When I stopped and looked at what it was that bothered me about this session, I realised that the person presented herself in a manner that seemed almost brash but was a façade for her vulnerability and her insecurity about her story and message being accepted.  The information she was sharing was great and worth listening to but I wasn’t able to get past the language being used.  What I realised was that this was how I felt about exposing my vulnerability, my story and my message.  We each have our own way of exposing our fears.  This was a great reminder to stop and look at why something about someone is bothering me.

 What we do, say and think is often reflected back to us in order to show us what we believe, as we only see what we believe.  This is a good way of checking in with your beliefs and attitudes.  Are they in line with your true authentic self or is it time to do a clearing?

I had an experience this week that reminded me of this.  My daughter’s teacher had bee suggesting that when I had time, I could pop in and do some drawings for the kid’s to paint.  For a busy person, I found this to be a little vague.  The paint that was to be used was to be sourced from a local DIY store here.  When the teacher went in to collect the paint, the store person suggested she might like to pick out the colours and quantities she wanted from the sample pots.  I was intrigued to hear the teacher make a comment about the vagueness.

What is around us is a reflection of ourselves, but we also take on the energy of our environment.  An example that comes to mind occurred while I was cat & house sitting a few years back for a couple who were also having relationship problems at the time.  While I was in their house, I noticed in the dining room a paper mache eye and mouth on the wall, but no ear.  For me, this suggested that both of them were keeping an eye on each other and talking but not listening to themselves or each other.  This not listening to each other was part of their problem, according to another source.  Perhaps by including an ear alongside the other two items, the relationship may have had a better chance of surviving.  In the above example, was the environment responsible for influencing the relationship or did the occupants influence the environment by not listening to each other so an ear was never going to be bought.

This is something to be aware of each day.  Being mindful of what we say, think and do becomes such important part of our own development.  When issues arise, sometimes it pays to stop, take a look around and see what issues are being reflected back to you that may need addressing in order to move forward.